My partner has told me he has a lump in his chest and is sure he has cancer, but will not go to the doctor?

I really do not know what to do
Answer:
He is being bery selfish because if he dies then he will hurt you and his friends and family.

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Knock him spark out and skull drag him there. The blooming Village Idiot!

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you can't force someone to stop smoking, start exercising, eat heathily, go to the doctor etc. - they have to do it for themselves

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persuade them nag if you have to shame him put him on a guilt trip do what you have to get him there i lost my mum to breast cancer

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Try asking him how worried he would be if it was you with the lump. It must be scary but he HAS got to go to the docs, it may hopefully turn out to be nothing. Tell him you will be with him if he wants. Good luck xx

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tell him hes an idiot.Then knock him out and take him to a doctor.

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He might not want to go to the doctors because he is scared of being told that it is cancer. Try and talk to him about it and tell him that your worried. Make an appointment with the doctors for him and go with him. Tell him that you love him and it would be best to sort it out now then to leave it. Reassure him that your there for him and that if he does have it you can fight it together.However it might not be cancer it might be a cyst. Although it's always best to get a new lump checked out. Take Care Hun and best of luck. Fingers crossed that it isn't cancer.

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Go with Indy500 on this. The sooner its diagnosed, the better his chances.

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TELL A DOCTOR NOW!
cancer can be deadly if it spreads and if he doesnt get it treated he could die!

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Sounds like your boy may be a little scared. Cancer is a life threatening and changing sickness. However, the lump in his chest may be something else. Tell him, "The longer you wait the worse off you'll be." I'd rather find out what it is now and have a chance to get rid of it, then to not go at all and end up being to late to fix it.

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make him go to the doctor if he refuses to go even though he has a sign of it then maybe he dont want to live anymore

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It sounds like he is really frightened. Gentle persuasion about how he will feel relieved if it is nothing serious %26 or how he will feel if the treatment is minor may work. Remind him that even if it is cancer, it isn't the thing to be most fearful of these days... it really is quite common place now and success rates are extremely high. tell him you understand how frightened he is.

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you need to tell him if this is the big c god forbid it is better to get it treated early look at the snooker player paul hunter his c was not found for a while and bless him he lost his battle very young
god bless and good luck

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My brother-in-law died because he would not go to the Doctor. If he won't go for you, call his parents. If he won't take care of himself, who will he take care of? Make an appointment for him and kick him out if he doesn't follow through. This is very selfish on his part and if it is serious, you will never forgive yourself if you just sit there and don't do anything.

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I had Breast Cancer 6 years ago and had a mastectomy. In all the months that I was attending hospital for treatment there was only 1 man there who had been diagnosed with it. Yes, it's rare but men can still get it, so he needs to get it looked at now. If your partner is too afraid to go and see the doctor then perhaps your doctor would come and see him? I know my GP often goes to see patients in their own homes for none urgent cases. He is a very good GP by the way.

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I'm assuming he can "feel" it on the outside of the chest,like breast tissue etc. You need to give him some slack,and not nag. Men don't like that approach. Go to some Websites like webmd,or Google,and down load the info,and let him read for himself. Men can have breast cancer,same as women,if he's having a bloody nipple discharge,he will need to be checked.There are other conditions besides a cancer that could be the problem. Take care. SW RNP

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leave him i thing he want to die or he want to put to test if u really love him, tell him to show the please in chest than buy him some gift encourage him that it will soon be over make him happy

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The messages are VERY LOUD and VERY CLEAR, early diagnosis in most cases increases the chance of a cure of cancer IMMENSELY..
I am seventy one and I thought I may have a prostate problem.
I IMMEDIATELY went to my doctor who referred me to a cancer specialist. At this stage after several tests the results are neither one way or the other. But at least I know that should I be diagnosed with cancer I have given myself the BEST possible chance of beating it.
By the way the lump in his chest may be fatty tissue.
GO TO THE DOCTOR NOWWWWWWW...Klewless

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I am absolutely in agreement with those who say make him go to the doctor by hook or by crook. Explain to him that the fear of finding out anything is often perceived as worse than the actual results.One word of caution though please please go with him, and make sure that the doctor refers him to the appropriate place for any necessary tests. My partner went to our GP over 18 months ago with a series of symptoms and was dismissed and told it was "only IBS" (like thats not bad enough), The GP didnt even record her concerns on her records.She has just had radical surgery, radiotherapy and chemo for bowel cancer and is facing further chemo because its spread to her liver and they found cancer cells in the healthy tissue they removed.Please show these replies to your partner and tell him, he isnt on his own and you are concerned because you care about his wellbeing and if total strangers like us can offer support because we care, then he should think just how much more you are affected.
Best of luck
Tina
x

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You could call the doctor on his behalf and tell the doctor the problem. If he is a good doctor then he may call round and do a house visit.

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