My mom has cancer...?

and i think its my fault... they say stress causes cancer and all my family blames it on me... idk what to do.. she had a tumor be4 but she got it removed.. and ever since i left home she has gotten very worse and its my fault. i still see her and talk to her but it kills me knowing this could be the last year with her. i left home cause her and my grandmother physically abused me.. and now she wants me back but i say no every time. is it really my fault?what do i do?
Answer:
Current research shows that cancer is generally genetic or virus triggered.NOT CAUSED BY STRESS.

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That's life.

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...it's not u...it's genetic.

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its not your fault,stress does not cause ALL the cancer,dont blame your self for it,if your faimly blams you,tell them to go in a hole,its not your fault

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ITS NOT YOUR FAULT
My mum had it unfortuanlly she died a few month ago, I honestly feel for you, if you ever need to talk im here for you, i know how hard life can be.Ignore your family, its not your fault at all, stay with your mum get closer to her, remeber it isnt your fault she loves you have fun together and I'll pray that your mum gets better.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Sorry she has cancer. But, don't allow your mother and grandmother to emotionally blackmail you or use you as a scapegoat. They are being dealt a hand they have to cope with - not you. Stay away and protect yourself, sweetie. Please.

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it is not your fault and stress does not cause cancer any one can get cancer matter of fact you have cancer cells in you just like every one else but if your body triggers it then you will get it and if they physically abused you then maybe you should talk to your mom and ask her why she did that to you and try and work it out im sorry that you are in such a bad position good luck and god bless! :]

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It is not your fault!! Don't go back home to be abused. Do not feel guilty.

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I don't think it's your fault at all. All the time people say different things cause cancer, I don't think anybody knows for sure what does or does not cause different kinds of cancer. I can understand you not wanting to go back, obviously mental scars always remain even after you've escaped an abusive situation. However, speaking as someone who lost both a mother and grandmother to cancer, I know people in that position when confronted with their own mortality often think about things they have done wrong and might try to correct to leave a better legacy once their gone. I'm not saying you should go back, but definitely keep talking to her and give her a chance to right the wrongs and maybe repair the relationship.

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give her a call or talk to her y and y not and stuff like that

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It being your fault is rediculous. It is life and maybe just maybe its karma for harming the one she was to protect (YOU).spend time with your mom and tell her all you need to tell her and ask her all you need to ask her. Don't spend your time dwelling on something you can not change, spend your time soaking in all that is left. Laughter is the best medicine. I am so sorry to hear of your mothers illness, but please do not blame yourself. It is the way the world works is all.

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I'm sorry to hear your mom has cancer. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! No matter what anyone says. And honestly I can't imagine why your family would blame you; this is just another example of how they are abusive to you.Sweetie, no one knows the exact cause of cancer. There are many different types of cancers, and each has its own associated risk-factors, but rest assured that you did not create your mom's cancer.I hope you are living with people who truly love you and care for as a family should. Visit your mom if you think it will be good for both of you, but if she starts trying to give you a guilt trip saying you caused her illness... Tell her you're sorry she feels that way and leave. You're going through a difficult situation right now, and I hope you have some supportive people in your life.God Bless.

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I'm sorry to hear about your mom.It's not your fault and stress was not been proven to cause cancer. Like the person said,it's more due to family history. If your family is blaming it on you they they sure are being abusive. This really angers the heck out of me. I wish I could track them all down and crush every one of them. Keep a positive attitude and remember it is NOT your fault.

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Not possible. Stress or no stress, environmental factors and, more importantly, genetics play a huge role.It's not your fault. It's not her fault, either. It's a combination of genetics and other risk factors. No one can cause another person to have cancer. Someone who has cancer naturally gets worse-- in general-- that has nothing to do with you leaving home. Best of luck to you.

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Its Not Your Fault. it just a way that the universe/God etc. is paying back for wrongs (karma). So Don't feel guilty, and don't move back home because of it. Put yourself first. There are so many thing out there that cause cancer like eating red meat, knocking on a body part, drinking, smoking, caffeine etc So There's No Need For You To Stress About It. Just Enjoy The Year or Three You Still Have With Her.

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Girl this disease is not your fault she had a tumor that was probably cancerous, she has cancer because she was bound to get it. Don't blame yourself no matter how much people accuse you of this misfortune. My mom had cancer and died in 2004 ,people tried to blame me that if she would have received treatment sooner she would have lived. I was only 21 when she had suddenly stop functioning and couldn't do things for herself. Me and my sister who was 22 were the only family we had out in Chicago and all of her family was in California ,calling telling us what to do. My mother didn't want to leave the house and finally one day we had to force her to leave but carrying her down the stairs. The doctors told us that she had brain cancer for 8 years and never told anyone and it just was effecting her brain. Doctor's said it was to late a year ago but my family insisted it was are fault. Finally my family in California came and got her and she died there 3 months later. You don't have to go home if you were abused, still call her and help out when you can. You are young and dealing with alot, don't feel depressed because of what people tell you. Pray ask God to help you get thru this ruff time and ease your mom's pain. You'll be ok just, live day to day.

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First, it is NOT your fault your mom has cancer. The fact that your mom is abusive does not surprise me, since she is continuing to abuse you by making you feel guilty. I have two kids, and I would never, ever let them feel responsible for something that serious, and force them to carry that burden for the rest of their lives. Please believe me when I say this, you are not even remotely responsible. When a person, especially an abusive one, develops such a disease, the reaction is to blame someone else, and unfortunately you have been the scapegoat for a long time, so your the perfect target. It's a shame, and you don't deserve it.
You need peace. If your mom is terminal, she can die any way she chooses. She can be mean and angry, or otherwise. You can't change that, and you can't control how she behaves or feels. What I advise you to do is spend some time with her and focus on yourself, and your peace. Not hers. Get your closure, tell her what you need to, good and bad, and don't worry about how she feels about it. When she is gone, you will be left with whats in your heart, so be sure you fill it with your own goodness. You may need to set some boundaries with her to keep her and your g-mother from using you to vent their frustrations on, but be firm about not taking any crap anymore. Your better than that, so expect it from them and everyone else. Just remember, you only control yourself. Your mom may not change much, but in changing how you interact with her (respecting yourself, holding your ground) you might find the peace and strength inside yourself you need to move on.

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